One of the most difficult emotional challenges of this life
is to experience loneliness. Loneliness
comes in so many forms. We can be lonely
because of physical isolation from others.
We all experienced this to some degree because of COVID. We can even be with people and still feel
lonely. Often people who live in big
cities with populations in the millions can experience loneliness. Sadly, at other times, people can intentionally
be made to feel lonely. Youth who are
bullied or adults who are in toxic relationships can be emotionally placed in
isolation.
God has always been aware of the potential for our loneliness
and its destructive effects. In Genesis,
we see God creating Eve, a companion for Adam, so he would not be alone. In Jesus’ sending out the disciples on
mission to heal and preach, he doesn’t send them out as Lone Rangers, he sent
them out in pairs. Jesus instituted the
Sacrament of Marriage, in part, so the two would be one.
We are made to be in relationship with others. We are made to love. When deprived of that opportunity, we feel
very much alone. We need to feel that others
are present to us and that we can fulfill our human responsibility to be
present to others. We need people
present in our lives.
Often those relationships are not necessarily deep ones, but
even those that aren’t deep can be very meaningful. I recall growing up in Queens and traveling
to high school on public transportation.
Each morning as I made a transfer from a bus to a subway, I would stop
at a corner newsstand and buy a copy of the Daily News. Believe it or not, I think the paper cost 35
cents in those days, but that’s another story.
The man selling the newspapers each day was an older man who legally
blind. I never knew his name and he
never knew mine, but each day as I stopped to buy my newspaper, I would pause
for a few minutes of chatter. We’d talk
about the Met game the night before or the weather. This small interchange became a pleasant and
meaningful part of my day and I hope for his as well.
One day, I came to the newsstand to discover that the gate
was down. The newsstand was shuttered
and would never open again. I am not
sure what happened to the man, but I did know I missed our daily pleasantries. They must have had an impact on me, because I
still recall them today, some forty years later.
God did not leave us alone.
In fact, he always wants to be present to us. In the garden, when Adam disobeyed God, God
did not leave him to go it alone. He
sought him out, “Adam, where are you?”
And so he seeks us, not just to keep us company, not just
for passing moments, but for a deep relationship, that will do more than fill
an emotional need, but that will save us!
In this season, we live out that yearning for him. We cry, “O come, O come Emmanuel.” We cry for God to be with us. We can be joyful, because indeed, he is with
us.
- The Servant